Have you ever had a friend that seemed down on there luck and just needed a hand to get back on there feet, most often a kind word or a push of encouragement? There's an instinct in us to help others and it often becomes stronger when you need or have needed help yourself, when you can relate to other people in need. This is why a lot of abused women end up helping other abused women or cancer patients bond with each other. We find common ground and want to help each other even if you may not have gone through that particular hurdle in your life, for some it is easy to empathize with them if you have felt another reach out to you.
Before I continue, to any one in a situation who needs help themselves, YOU CAN NOT GIVE TO ANOTHER WHAT YOU NEED FOR YOUR SELF. Relating to depression and mental disorders, we often need emotional help in one way or another. Until you have been given and have helped yourself in this area you can't help another like you. This is why care givers/parents should make sure they're looked after first. Once you have gotten strength, energy and help from others is when you can be a powerful influence on others lives.
Most of us has had people in our lives with the kind of person that tells you all of there problems and asks for advice but never takes it and you find yourself in the same place you started, listening to the same problems and hearing the same questions being asked. What do you do without being mean? And when you have let it go on so long it makes it that much harder. All they do is drain your energy like a leech.
Every person has a comfort spot, but some are dangerous to others. Some people prey on sympathy of others to feed a need so they can stay in a dark warm hole and no matter what any one does, that worm isn't coming out! The food is your personal empathy and energy and tinstinct takes over like an misbehaved child.
Obviously this is coming from a resent experience. When I tried to cut this friendship off , they kept on pulling on my strings and throwing the rope back in, making me feel bad for not catching it.
If you are suffering from a loss of energy and want more, this includes every day people and regular depression, the following formula will describe the steps needed to produce energy.
Stage 1-
Dream. Look into a future with you in it and imagine your self doing some thing you may never thought possible. Dream that all your wishes came true and think of each one at a time. The more you let your self dream thoughts of what can be, the more energy you will get.
Stage 2 –
Desire. Write down a list of your desires from A – Z. These are things you may have always wanted to do or things you start to think of as you start writing.
Stage 3 –
Goals. Start to write short term goals then long term ones. You have been letting your mind go free and think of possibilities, these should be about those possibilities but achievable. Once you write a goal on paper it's funny, without thinking too much about it, how easy it is to achieve those goals. Start with daily ones that you can see them crossed off at the end of the day then have monthly, yearly, and 5,10 15 yr annually ones.
Stage 4-
Achievement. To achieve each goal this will give you energy. The bigger the goal, often the more energy you will receive. This is why it is good to have daily goals especially when you don't feel good.
Remember to never give energy you don't have. You need energy to create more for yourself.
